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Re: Friends Outweighing Hatred On The Web

rifchia — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 06:13:22 -0000

I can see that your life experiences are always there to support you as a better person. I don't know much about racism, however it is indeed admirable that you can tolerate such acts in your life.
Rif Chia

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mindofandre — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 08:25:56 -0000

Those experiences from the past are only going to keep you focused on your goals - I already see that. Big thing ahead C, proud of you :)

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Jennifer — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 04:01:18 -0000

Proud of you @corvida.

You know I go through this discrimination daily online and offline so you do have to brush it off your shoulders but sometimes you get annoyed with all the ignorance of some people who refuse to listen to you. You are blessed to have a community of individuals who are open to listen and learn. That is called POWER!

Keep your head up and know God is protecting you always!

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Solacetech — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 22:17:49 -0000

Just brush that dirt off your shoulder sis....

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Kathy Sierra — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 12:33:26 -0000

Drew said: "You can't change people." I agree, but you CAN change cultural norms. What we tolerate, accept, ignore becomes tacit approval... and those who want to shock must keep turning up the dial to get a response. The more we accept, the worse it will get.

Corvida, you're a brave one. We need more of you.

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amsall — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 12:26:29 -0000

Corvida, I'm with you in all this. Of course this goes without saying, because being with you is the same as being with myself. That goes without saying, but still I'll say it: "I'm with you".

Also congratulations and thanks to Wayne, Louis, Cyndy and all the others... for doing what they've done and simply being themselves, i.e. good people, which seems to be pretty hard for some people. Anyway, as we all know, "bad people are unhappy people". Poor fools!

I know you won't allow yourself to be ruffled by idiots.

Just keep moving, forward and upward ;-)

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Katie — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 01:00:25 -0000

Amen. I'm sorry to hear that the two of you had to go through such immaturity. It's 2008. Just wanted to leave this comment to let you know I enjoy your work and have been reading for quite some time. :)

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Derrick — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 21:53:12 -0000

Thanks for speaking out, hon. I'm glad and proud to consider you a friend and want nothing but the best because you're good people, and you deserve it. Onward and upward.

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jkuramot — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 15:39:30 -0000

You and Wayne handled this deplorable situation like true pros. It's really sad that this continues to happen. I'm glad to see that you're taking it in stride, showing a lot more decency than I would, but I'm saddened that this happened to you.
Keep on truckin. Hope to see you soon in PDX.

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seanosx — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 15:16:04 -0000

It's extremely sad that in 2008 I expect things like that to happen once in a while and its disgusting. I am glad you guys just kept going on with the live stream and ignored them. I wish you guys much continued success.

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microrahsheen — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 13:20:02 -0000

This is it exactly, guys. Shey and Corvida have covered it.

No need to apologize for the community. Most of us are used to this.

I would have to say that I completely missed most of the ignorant comments during the livestream much the same way I ignore most ads.

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leonwestbrook — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 13:11:07 -0000

"This is why we can't have nice things!" The only thing racist fools who comment on youtube videos do is make my skin a lot thicker.

Online racism holds no candle at all to IRL racism.

Let me know next time you have a video chat. I'll proudly swing the banhammer. :)

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hardaway — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 12:38:53 -0000

Corvida, I am now one of your admirers. Srand up for our beliefs, and for the higher aspirations of all of us.

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Tris Hussey — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 12:07:46 -0000

I'm sorry I missed your video segment because I know it would have been interesting (ignoring the trolls clearly).

We need more light shone on this kind of thing. Trolls don't like light.

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gregorylent — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 11:31:39 -0000

yeah, they are just human problems, humans come in lots and lots of varieties, hard for some to handle.

defining one's self as any subset of the continuum is just silly and self-limiting. gradation is everywhere, and we are all things ...

it is only the ego that wants to be special, and it is only the ego which fears the "other".

just be a human being, that is everything

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swhitley — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 10:44:49 -0000

The cowards would never say these things in person. My wife and I have experienced the raw use of the n* word over and over again while online gaming. It's very disturbing and we've been powerless many times to stop it (but we continue to try).

As a developer, I think that I have a responsibility to try to prevent this from happening. I encourage other developers to consider ways to limit the ability of anonymous users to spew their filth.

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n8k99 — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 09:34:02 -0000

it is our duty, as enlightened individuals, to speak up when we encounter injustice and if we do not fulfill this duty how pray tell will the closed mined masses ever know that there is a better way of living life. when we fail to do so, when we neglect our duty, we not only allow friends and family to face abhorrent conditions but we do not present a manner in which to clear this blight from our society.
when i witness racism in the present, focused upon a person who i hold dear, and i do not speak up, nor only do i experience the pain of guilt but i contribute to the suffering by not helping to bear the burden.
i only can wish i had been there.
these are only words and that is all i can do, write some words.

Re: Friends Outweighing Hatred On The Web

shey — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 09:27:31 -0000

Well said Corvida. Like you, I don't believe it's necessary for any individual to apologize for the community -- but I do respect their support.

Stay strong and keep up the great work

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toddmck — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 09:14:52 -0000

Very well put. It has been pretty clear to me for a while now that you are a class act. This post is further proof.

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Michael Tefft — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 09:05:55 -0000

The kind of behavior you write about is all to common. I don't think I have ever seen a thread where a lot of people were involved where someone didn't say something that was unwarranted and completely out of line. The anonymity that is provide by the Internet sometimes brings out the worst in people. It is sort of like the behavior you see from some people on the highway. People who are normally not aggressive in person act like maniacs on the highway due to a perceived anonymity. All you can do is what you are doing. Like you said. " Sticks and stones...... "

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hawksdomain — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 08:37:53 -0000

Corvida I am sorry that anyone has to endure this type of thing. The world is full of mean people and the internet seems to draw out even the closet mean people. Good for you and Wayne to ignore them and continue on with your livestream! :)

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profy — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 05:05:29 -0000

Corvida, I agree with Karoli here that it was more of an apology on behalf of the entire online community we all belong to since some of the members behave in the manner that the majority here denounces. It is really a shame for all of us that such issues arise at all and this is what I think many of us are sorry about: no matter how hard we try and no matter what efforts we invest into building a transparent community that will be comfortable for everyone, we still have not reached it and we still have to witness such situations and you still have to suffer them and explain your feelings. This is not supposed to happen and this is what I am sorry for as well.

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Karoli — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 04:43:45 -0000

You DO rock. But when i say i'm sorry, the apology is sort of an overall statement like "goddamn it, I'm nearly 50 and thought we'd be done with this crap by now", more than an actual apology.

It's my lame way of saying that I'd like to take every one of those trolls outside and tar and feather them. Life is just too short to spend it bent over in hate. I'm glad you rise above it.

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Klessblog — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 04:23:42 -0000

Hey Corvida, You rock! I applaud you and Wayne for your dignity and courage. I was glad to see a lot of the community come together to speak out against the ignorance. I'm in your corner as well.

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elliottng — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 04:14:48 -0000

Excellent response Corvida. I'm not surprised you are prepared for the encountering of racism because clearly racism exists and in many forms. I do think it is our responsibility to shape the context in which dialogue happens. That's easy when its your blog, but less easy in a more forum, chat, or shared commons area. Yes, fine-grained controls for hiding and ignoring are good, but we should take the responsibility through our words and our deeds to tell people what kind of behavior we find acceptable or not.